It's obvious that Tommy is going to win, he's just completely mad, he wouldn't take any shit from his gang either;
Scenario one:
Sweet goes piss mad at Tommy for leaving the hood, Tommy responds by shoving a pistol in Sweet's face.
Scenario two:
A gang member says he can't recruit him because he hasn't got enough respect, Tommy's answer was, "You either come with me or get shot in the face".
Scenario three:
Tenpenny pushes Tommy to the floor, Tommy reacts by blowing Tenpenny's head off with a Sawn-Off Shotgun.
Tommy is just much more aggressive and psycho than Carl, Tommy wouldn't take that kind of bullshit, he would end up killing half of Los Santos by the end of the game.
So it's a fact that Tommy would just go up to Carl and kill him before he starts talking all his gangsta crap.