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You're saying someones sexuality should be secret because it's not related to their work in the military. Given that, all soldiers should be banned from talking about their wives/girlfriends and children. Those things are equally unrelated and might upset other people, such as those who don't have wives/girlfriends/children, or homosexuals. Or are you saying its fine for straight people to talk about whatever they want and disgust gay people; but it should be illegal for gay people to talk about what they want if it disgusts anyone straight?

I wonder whether you actually know any gay people, or just believe what you see on TV. I've never been in a gay pride march or anything like that. I don't wear pink, I don't sing or dance, I'm not a hairdresser or a model, I don't have a camp voice, I don't do anything sterotypically gay. The only gay thing I do is have a boyfriend, and even then I don't flaunt him around everywhere or do inappropriate things in public. However, that doesn't mean I'm treated the same as a straight person. I should be able to kiss my boyfriend in public, just like a straight couple can, but I can't because at the very least I'd get funny looks and tuts, but I could realistically get beaten up or even killed for it. It happens. I should be able to marry my boyfriend, should we decide to do that, just like a straight couple can. But I can't. Nor can we adopt children, have the same rights, or have the same tax benefits that straight couples can. If I tell someone I'm gay, I quite often get told "please don't hit on me". That drives me INSANE! Do straight guys hit on every girl they see just because they like women? No. Just because I like guys (not girls) doesnt mean I like you. In fact, the chances are you're incredibly ugly to me and I can't wait to look somewhere else. And let's not forget the sterotypes of promiscuity, sexual deviancy and being disease ridden. Most gay people have LESS sex than straight people because they can't come out at school/college/work and they struggle to find someone else gay. In San Francisco I think sexually active gay people are fractionally more likely to have HIV/AIDS, but I don't, and I wish people wouldn't ask if I do. Although you seem to understand that it doesn't make a difference to our job, you seem to think we want to make everything pink and gay. That's not the case. Just in case you were wondering, I was in the military, and I am a police officer. I agree that there's no point in telling everyone you meet. I never told my colleagues at work, because it wasn't relevant. But I shouldn't have to lie about it. I shouldn't have to pretend to stare at breasts, and answer questions about which intern I'd like to bend over the photocopier. I should be able to tell people "well actually I like guys, not girl", just like "well actually I like blondes, not brunettes". If it is relevant, I should be able to tell people, and it shouldn't be a big deal. I shouldn't be forced to listen to people talking about fags and queers like we're all a bunch of rapists and pedophiles without being able to speak up. But thanks to people like you, I have to lie. Some people deal with this opression by going out on big parades. Some people flaunt their sexuality in their attire and demeanour. I just get on with it, and try to change peoples attitudes positively. So stop treating us as all the same, all one community, all fitting the stereotype, all working together to turn the world pink. Please don't assume that I'm going to rape your children or dance my way to the bar to buy a girly cocktail. We're not the same.

Because not everybody is as accepting of our inherent differences as you. Gay... really is not an aesthetic value. I have a friend whom I had known for several years before learning he was homosexual. Nobody would have guessed it, he was the straightest seeming guy around. Gay is not what you see on tv, nor a stereotype, THE stereotype formed by society. There are too many points in your argument to pick out individually, a lot of it's pretty hypocritical and makes you sound like an utter bigot. If someone you know approaches you and states that they're a homosexual, you can just as easily choose to ignore that. By kicking up a fuss you're facilitating their alleged behaviour, creating a song and dance (or is that a bit 'gay'?) about it makes you just as 'guilty' as them. 'I don't like it when gays are all up in my face about their sexuality' I don't like it when people criticize others who are simply trying to avoid social faux pas and misunderstandings and make an attempt to engage with their fellow people. Maybe you're sick of how your fellow workers go on about poofters, faggots or queers, or how that girl in accounting has a sweet ass. It's a fact of life that these things are said in the workplace, and if you're offended by them, your boss has the right to know why, and you have the responsibility to tell him. Inb4shitstorm.