Not to be an ass but yeah, it is your fault.
I have anxiety disorder. I couldn't even walk outside of my house without getting one and I had to quit my job at the time (I was 16). I spent my entire summer vacation in my house and my dad would buy me DVDs to watch so I had something to do.
Eventually, it pissed me off and I didn't want to live that way so I did something about it. I faced my fears and I am here 8 years later, still have anxiety disorder, but never get an attack. I can even go to the mall now. I wasn't able to before. It was the WORST place I could go.
If you don't like something, it's up to you to change it. I know what anxiety feels like and it sucks.....a lot. You just have to try really hard to get over it. Now, I have a husband, a fantastic job and great friends. I go wherever I want to go and not worry about getting a panic attack and having to go to the hospital.
It will take time but good luck.
Explain how that makes it my fault though? I see what your saying about facing fears but have no idea where your coming from in terms of having social anxiety is my fault.
And you say it pissed you off... that's my life though. I try and do something about it all the time but I've just given up now. I started off with walking into a store with a few people to walking into a store with a lot of people, etc. Where theres people, there are assholes, I've just came to that conclusion and can't get off of it.
Edit: and yeah I realized that I'm a "conclusion" based person, like, I know I'm ugly etc so I just stick with it and can't change my mind. I don't know it's really hard to explain and to be honest I usually feel comfortable talking about it but I realize when I'm going into more detail like this it gets kind of hard.