LDoubleU Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 Right so there's this girl i like... She's 14 i am 18 in May and her bro is one of my best mates, he's cool with it though... It's just other people are saying that I shouldn't date her because she's 14 and i am almost 18... What do you guys think? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Connor Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 Meh, maybe you should wait until she's a bit older...but I dunno, it's up to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
macorules94 Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 how can you like a 14 year old? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MetalInusan Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 i say,if you love her enough go for it.i really don't see a problem unless u get her pregnant Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ivan Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 It is a bit weird but nevermind other people. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thomas. Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 My parents are 7 years of age apart. And no, it doesn't matter but maybe wait until she's like 15 or something. Just keep liking her until then Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tilly Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 I don't find a problem with it. Only problem that you could face is rape charges. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrLlamaLlama Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 you sick fuck And Lee, why the fuck you never post, biatch? Seriously though... if I were in that position, I'd wait till she was 15... 14 is (very) dangerous territory, IMO. (Considering your age) I know you like her and stuff mate, but even with all that love triumphs all bullshit, it might not be worth the stick from people who aren't your mates. Plus, if it ends, and she ends it, then.. well, you're gonna have got left by a 14 year old... Talk to her about it, see whether she agrees etc. You should probably spend a few days together without dating to see if you guys are gonna actually get on before you start dating her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thomas. Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 Not if he doesn't rape her. I don't know about this law in America but to shag a girl, the girl has to be sixteen years old to be able to shag her without being put in jail. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ryder Johnson Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 Fuck that bitch, Fuck her good, then get the fuck out of there or else she'll want to cuddle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rockstarrem Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 ...soo everyone here is assuming they're going to be having sex. Of course. Anyway, if you're not going to be fucking her brains out then yeah go for it, but honestly, it WILL change your relationship with your friend, it always does. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 Not if he doesn't rape her. I don't know about this law in America but to shag a girl, the girl has to be sixteen years old to be able to shag her without being put in jail. Lol putting it bluntly there. But yeah, you can't consent to intercourse until you're 16 years old in most countries (apparently it's 18 in a lot of US states though, but that's irrelevant here). So if you do have sex and you either get caught, or she for some reason cries rape then basically you are VERY fucked, especially since you're 18+ so you'd be tried as an adult obviously. Though to be honest the amount of people who you hear of losing their virginity before they're legal you wonder how the fuck people actually get caught in the first place. Age gaps become less of an issue the older you get, there's 12 years between my Mum and Dad, fine now, but that wouldn't work if my Dad was 18, my Mum would only be 6 years old! So yeah, it's not a problem but some people would frown upon it at the moment. Things sound weird when she's still at school and you've finished etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Urbanoutlaw Posted February 23, 2009 Share Posted February 23, 2009 Fuck that bitch, Fuck her good, then get the fuck out of there or else she'll want to cuddle. BOY, WHERE IS YOUR MAMMA?!?! (^ 11-year-old ^) As long as it's not a serious physical relation ship & her parents are okay on this, 4 years isn't a big deal. It's a case by case kind of thing, just remember that at 14 her parents are legally & morally responsible so respect their wishes. you'll have plenty of time for "other' things when you both get older. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sherman Posted February 23, 2009 Share Posted February 23, 2009 If you have to ask, you probably shouldn't do it. 4 years isn't a lot of difference, but maturity is, imo. I mean YES I did date a mature 15 year old (I was 17).. but that was just 2 years. It'll affect your whole life, man. It's entirely up to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LDoubleU Posted February 23, 2009 Author Share Posted February 23, 2009 Cheers guys, most of you have been helpful. @MLL: Good idea mate, i spent quite a lot of time with her last week... But yeah... We'll see how things go... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harwood Butcher Posted February 23, 2009 Share Posted February 23, 2009 (edited) You should check with her parents first. If it's cool with them...then you should be fine. Just don't cross the line. Edited February 23, 2009 by Harwood Butcher Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LDoubleU Posted February 23, 2009 Author Share Posted February 23, 2009 Yeah but it is bit weird just like going up to her mum and going 'yeah is it ok if I date your daughter?' or is that just me? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slyde Posted February 23, 2009 Share Posted February 23, 2009 PICS OR GTFO Nobody seemed to have answered the moral question. My opinion, morally wrong? Not at all. If you like her then feeling weird won't matter. Then again, when you go to your mates house he would be like, "Hey wanna xbox some upstairs?" You: Err i was thinking i could sit around your sister's room and make out today. Mate: Oh umm, tell me when you're done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
macorules94 Posted February 23, 2009 Share Posted February 23, 2009 My parents are 10 years apart. Wait till she's 18 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TM™ Posted February 23, 2009 Share Posted February 23, 2009 So by then he'll be like 22-23? And he'll probably be with someone else by then? And so could she as well? I wouldn't exactly know what you should do, some people are saying you should (When they're seriously younger than a 14 year old) and some are saying don't. Well, for me, I would say do what you feel like doing, if you think it's right. But thinking about it, like Llama said, 14 is a pretty dangerous territory, from your age and hers. Maybe if you stay friends, and when she gets a bit older etc, you can take things up a notch. I think the moral of this isn't wrong, but then again, her brother is your mate right? Looking at Slydes example (Which is lol), I really dunno what you could do, unless your mate is fine about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LDoubleU Posted February 23, 2009 Author Share Posted February 23, 2009 PICS OR GTFONobody seemed to have answered the moral question. My opinion, morally wrong? Not at all. If you like her then feeling weird won't matter. Then again, when you go to your mates house he would be like, "Hey wanna xbox some upstairs?" You: Err i was thinking i could sit around your sister's room and make out today. Mate: Oh umm, tell me when you're done. Ok firstly, LOL. Secondly, yeah I thought that too... But I dunno really So by then he'll be like 22-23? And he'll probably be with someone else by then? And so could she as well?I wouldn't exactly know what you should do, some people are saying you should (When they're seriously younger than a 14 year old) and some are saying don't. Well, for me, I would say do what you feel like doing, if you think it's right. But thinking about it, like Llama said, 14 is a pretty dangerous territory, from your age and hers. Maybe if you stay friends, and when she gets a bit older etc, you can take things up a notch. I think the moral of this isn't wrong, but then again, her brother is your mate right? Looking at Slydes example (Which is lol), I really dunno what you could do, unless your mate is fine about it. Well he seems alright with it... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spaz The Great Posted February 23, 2009 Share Posted February 23, 2009 There's too many reasons why it will cause trouble for you. Her age, your friend, society, etc. It's really all about whether YOU feel it's right or not. But if you don't want all the trouble, all you can do is avoid the situation. Because you definitely won't avoid the trouble. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LDoubleU Posted February 23, 2009 Author Share Posted February 23, 2009 There's too many reasons why it will cause trouble for you. Her age, your friend, society, etc. It's really all about whether YOU feel it's right or not. But if you don't want all the trouble, all you can do is avoid the situation. Because you definitely won't avoid the trouble. Well we'll see now, she says she's gunna think about it so yeah... I mean, we both like eachother it's just difficult given the situation... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spaz The Great Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 Be ready for some shit, from EVERYONE. I've been in your (almost)exact situation before. That was even WITHOUT the involvement of her brother being a friend and all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bear Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 All I can say is be very very careful. She is under the age of consent, so not saying you would go too far but if things ended badly then they can cry rape even if nothing has been done. Someone from my school had that, they got in serious trouble. He was 17 and she was 14. I just say be prepared for a alot of comments. My ex boyfriend was a year younger and I had people saying I was a child molestor and that was a years difference. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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